I don’t normally get on here and talk about controversial topics but this one bothers me to no end. I am going to get a little personal and it may be offending to some people but at the same time those who relate to this need to read and hear that there are others out there feeling this way.
I want to talk about Child Free individuals. I am not even going into specifics about whether or not they chose to be child free or if they are forced into it by circumstance or health. The reality is this group of people and myself included in this group is being shamed. Society can not accept that some people simply do not have kids. Child free are being labeled as selfish, immature, or career obsessed. I hear it almost daily that people without kids are not fulfilled in their life, or that they haven’t matured into an actual adult. Seriously, we are actually shaming people about procreation. It is acceptable too, and one of the worst offenders, women. Women, and a lot of them have taken to the internet to specifically call out child free women and publicly shame.
Now I know I’m not someone’s mother and I am not raising kids but if I was I highly doubt I would be teaching them it is acceptable to shame people for their life choices, also don’t forget for many people being child free is not a choice! I think these kinds of people shouldn’t be raising kids if they are that ignorant. I am fearful for these children growing up in that environment becoming a product where bullying and shaming is promoted.
Before even considering to ask a someone why they do not have kids, take a second to think if you are prepared for that answer. Do you really want them to break down in front of you and tell you it is everything they want but can’t have? Are you ready to hear that they hate kids and want yours to stop destroying their house? Do you really want to know that the only thing important is their career? What does it matter, it is a life decision and in some cases a decision they didn’t have the luxury to make.
I am so incredibly done with seeing memes like this
Definition from Websters dictionary, it does not say you can only be exhausted if you have kids. Yes I am exhausted too and I am allowed to be. I work hard at my job it’s not an easy job and it doesn’t stop I am always on the go and battle insomnia. I am physically and mentally drained the majority of the time so go laugh somewhere else because your ignorance is disgusting.
I get it, your proud of your child and you love it dearly as you should. It’s when you start to imply or judge others that their life is unfulfilled, their heart is empty, they are not a complete woman. It is cruel, instead we should be supportive of that individual. It honestly shouldn’t matter. I do see more women are actually choosing not to have kids and are pursuing things that make them happy maybe they don’t want to sit around on their mommy blogs bashing women for being child free. Women are more free than we have ever been not living repressed lives as was the norm in previous years. Yes of course we want to expand out limits as women we should be encouraging these women as they help to open more doors for all of us, why then do we do the opposite and shame them. What’s wrong with having a career that you love?
Maybe that women who actually doesn’t like kids is making a great choice because she just simply is not a good candidate to be a mother but has the self-awareness to save some poor soul that misery.
Don’t forget about the women who didn’t have the choice. Why would you shame someone for a medical condition? In my books someone who shames another over a health issue has no business raising children themselves.
My most favourite child free shaming line I hear all the time, who will take care of you when you are old? Really, so I should go out and have a kid so they will have to wipe my butt later? That’s not a reason to have kids either that’s intent to inflict burden upon them and if that is your reason for having kids than that’s the real shame.